Tips to be in good terms with your mother in-law

Posted by Felix Okoli on Monday May 12, 2014 at 16:21:44:

One of the problems ladies encounter in their marriage is not being in good terms with their mothers-in-law and when a lady is in good terms with her mother-in-law, the marriage is always shaky and most times as good as finished.

This issue is always a delicate issue, but this article will give some tips that will help any lady maintain a good relationship with her mother-in-law.

- Take Her as Your Mother: This is the first thing that is necessarily, most ladies take their mother-in-laws as another woman. Remember she is your husband’s mother and you and your husband are meant to be one, so taking her as your mother is necessary. When you take her as your mother, you will learn to love and respect her, and when you come to love and respect her, she will reciprocate it with time.

- Learn to tolerate her short comings: Nobody is perfect, not even you. Everybody has a good side and a not so good side, learn to tolerate the not so good side of your mother-in-law, and rather concentrate more on her good side and voice your appreciate when she renders little help to you.

- Learn to communicate easily with her: This would help sort out any misunderstanding that could lead to a bigger problem. Most misunderstandings are brewed from little things that don’t always matter, and when there is lack of communication between the two parties, it always escalates to something bigger.

Know when she is in a good mood, approach her respectfully, tell her where she wronged you, and apologize when she points out your own faults.

Finally, do not try to set your husband against your mother-in-land, because it will back fire, remember she is his mother and will take her word against yours in most cases.