What to do when your partner is cheating on you

Posted by Felix Okoli on Monday July 14, 2014 at 9:11:42:

Human beings are not perfect and so mistakes might happen from time to time especially when 2 people are in a deep relationship.

Fidelity is one of the basic foundations needed for a successful relationship and fidelity has to do with both partners in a relationship being true to each other without third party interference.

Infidelity is one of the things that kills a relationship and remains the highest cause of divorce in marriages. It is disheartening situation when you find out that your partner or spouse that you trusted is having an affair with another person.

In this article, I am going to give some advice of what a person can do when he or she find’s out that his or her spouse is cheating on him and how to handle the situation.

Get evidence: No matter how you got to know about the infidelity of your partner, it's not always good to just assume it to true or just believe stories from third parties. Even if you saw it with your own eyes, its always good to get some evidence secretly on your partner's infidelity before confronting him/her. You can get a photo, video, voice recording, email, chat or other indisputable evidence that he'she was cheating. This will make it easier for the person to admit to the guilt and be at least willing to make amends. It will also make it easier for the issue to be handled by a third party in case the trouble gets out of hand.

Gently Confront Your Partner: The way and mood you confront your cheating partner will determine whether the issue will be settled or not. A loud confrontation or accusation will not solve the problem; rather it will escalate the whole issue. Have a low tuned conversation with your spouse and raise up the matter when he or she is in a good mood. Don't start with insults and have your evidence at hand in case the partner tries to deny. Confront him/her and see if he/she is willing to make amends. You can recommend a form of punishment such as a change in behaviour or lifestyle.

Be ready to forgive: If you truly love the person and want to avoid having regrets later on, it's always best to forgive the person, most especially if you have been in the relationship for a long time. It can be harder to replace an old friend with a new friend who is still not perfect. Being forgiving and tolerant is always best.

Take it to a third party: If the affair continues and your partner is not remorseful and either denies or just unwilling to change, you can report the case to a third party like your parents, brother, close relative or other family friend that your partner is most likely going to listen to.

Take It To God In Prayer: For most people, this will be the last step they will take when everything has gotten out of hands. Go to God in prayer and let him know about the situation, and ask for wisdom or inspiration on how to deal with the matter wisely.